Women’s Personal Finance Wednesdays – Week 38
1. The Diderot Effect: How Buying Fuels Itself Afford Anything
Whenever I consider bumping up our lifestyle in a considerable way, this concept comes to mind. It is so much easier to stick with what we know to be normal and good than to start finding ways to splurge when a windfall comes our way. That isn’t to say that SOME lifestyle inflation isn’t good, because being able to spend on things like travel and quality products can absolutely make our lives better, but as a whole, holding back is usually a good plan as much as possible.
While I’ve definitely heard about Diderot, reading a history of his situation through the lens of financial independence and lifestyle inflation was fascinating. I feel this would be a great read for any young person just starting out before their income grows (or for anyone, really). On the environmental side of things, that same mindfulness is way better for the planet as well because we become much less voracious consumers.
While I didn’t experience the depression Emma talks about here, I definitely had quite a few very anxious moments after conceiving a very much wanted pregnancy myself. Considering I struggle with anxiety without all the hormones that come from being pregnant, it shouldn’t have shocked me that pregnancy was as hard on me mentally as it was.
But we talk about pregnancy as such a sunshine and rainbows time where the mother to be can be simply glowing and make light of the not so fun parts of the experience that I suppose it isn’t actually so surprising that I was caught off guard like Emma. If we want to make a real difference in the experience of women before, during, and after pregnancy, we need to be more open to share the real, raw emotions that sometimes (oftentimes) accompany what is an otherwise happy time of life.
Emma, it does get better. Likely not immediately after the baby is born, but it does get better. And having the support system you have is incredible, and I have no doubt they’ll be there for you through that whole first year with your very loved baby. Thank you, for me, for all us mamas and want to be and some day mamas for being brave enough to bare your soul and lay this out online.
3. Lost Time. Or: 51 Doctor Appointments Disabled Girl on FIRE
I’m writing this post while I’m waiting with my two dogs for their annual shots and exams (as well as to check out the reason for our older dog’s chewing). I feel like I have SO many appointments between myself, the kiddo, and the animals (don’t even ask me about when I’m actually going to get in for my follow up hearing exam), but the idea of fifty one appointments in a single year is mind boggling.
When we talk about visible and invisible disabilities, the conversation is usually about how they can impact daily life, but this is something I’ve never seen discussed – the emotional, physical, monetary, and time costs of actually dealing with those disabilities. So thank you, Tami, for always being so candid and open on your blog so we can get just a peak at what it’s like. No matter what, knowledge of experience is a powerful piece of helping people to understand lives different than their own.
PS. I did my very first Facebook Live in the Women’s Personal Finance Facebook group where I talk about the origin and the goals for the group as well as celebrating a friend’s milestone of being NET WORTH POSITIVE! Go check it out 🙂