Women’s Personal Finance Wednesdays – Week 53
While meant to be inspiring and helpful, these articles are often just circle jerks for people with financial advantages.“
I so appreciate that Kara never pulls punches when it comes to talking about money. This idea of “inspiration porn” is one that’s been talked about some in my circle of personal finance bloggers – especially the financial feminist crowd – but it gets glossed over for the most part. Because, really, what sounds more exciting? Paying off $90,000 in eleven months, or finally paying off that last student loan after a slow, hard slog of fifteen years?
As inspiring as the first story can be on its face, it’s not usually that helpful for the average person. And it can be really disheartening when it feels like everyone can turn it around on a dime and you’re in it for the long haul. And then, of course, there’s the privilege discussion that then needs to be had. But it’s way easier to pretend it doesn’t when all you’re reading is the first story.
2. My $12 Vanity Trip and How I Bought Myself a Kid’s Toy A Dime Saved
It’s so easy to project our own feelings on to other people, and this is no less true when it comes to our children. This story is such a good reminder that so often we blow interactions well out of proportion when we keep repeating them in our own heads.
While this is easy to see when she’s talking about a story to do with her children, this is an excellent reminder for other situations as well. So often we’re sure we know what another person is thinking, when really they’ve moved on and haven’t given the encounter another thought.
3. The FIRE Movement’s Fatphobia Problem Owning The Stars
I was so dang happy that Elizabeth wrote this post as soon as I read the headline before even clicking to read. This topic is an insidious one, but one I’ve absolutely noticed pop up again and again. Finally, someone has taken this fallacy head on and walked through in detail why this is such a bad take. With links to studies and science. It’s fabulous.
Clearly, I’m not 100% happy with where my body is at right now. Losing weight is even on my list of goals for the year. And yes, some of that is absolutely vanity. But a lot of it is also to get myself back into better shape – both with the food I put in my body and the exercise I fit into my days. I’m heavier than I’d like to be, but I also know I eat better and am in better shape than many people smaller than I am. Weight, and body shape, are MUCH more complicated than personal finance, and it’s time we start talking that way.